You have brains in your head,
You have feet in your shoes,
You can steer yourself in any direction you choose.
-- Dr. Seuss (Theodor Seuss Geisel—American children’s book writer and cartoonist)
And you think you are in a mess because someone else is controlling you….
Think again….
And before that… think why a certain so-called person wants to control you when he/she has their own lives….
Well... well…. Most Certainly…... Probably…... Maybe….
The person has no control on Himself or Herself…
The person is entirely lost in the biasness to get in “Control Others” mode.. .
These are confused people creating problems in other people’s lives…
They forget the fact that they have a life of their very own…
which they can live peacefully…
happily… but they refuse to accept it.
The big question is WHY ...?
Because …. they know their weakness too well…
Because …. they know they are ideologically wrong
Because …. they don’t want to change anything about themselves…
rather change the people and everything around...
Because …. they are arrogant and proud people from their inside…
Because …. they think that people around them are weak...
Because …. they are afraid of life…
Because …. they mostly live-in illusion…
Because …. they know somewhere, they need to hold on to a stronger pillar… YOU
Because …. controlling gives them a temporary satisfaction…
Because …. they know YOU are a way better human than them…
Because …. they simply turn a blind eye towards their weak self...
Because …. they need appreciation to thrive on…
Because …. they need to hide their empty emotions… or no emotions…
Because …. their over inflated ego tells them they are smarter than YOU...
Because …. they get some sort of pleasure in demeaning and belittling YOU...
Because …. they are afraid of being ALONE… friendless ..
These are the people who will meddle, or intrude in other people’s lives … and if they get burned, they will go about crying and playing the victim.
Hey YOU…. I suppose you were in love with this control freak….
When you did not know the reality….
And now that you know it all… it has hit you hard….
And YOU are speechless…
And YOU…. Let them do it all… have it all…. Enjoy it all….
…Living YOUR OWN life under this shadow….
……….Which you proudly call….. LOVE…. LIFE….????
The Control freak tries to predict how it will all happen….
The controller prevents you from moving forward…
By convincing YOU that the next step is a colossal leap…
Which might actually be NOT.. It might not even be a huge risk..
It’s a calculated move on the freaks’ part…..
YOU let that all happen… Is it worth being the empath.. ? ….Ask yourself…
Things go awry when the eternally hopeful and fixing heart of the empath, collides with the black one of the narcissist.
All your buttons are pushed and raison d'être is activated in fill force.
You see their brokenness, and you yearn to help them… to fix them..
Equally, the narcissist recognizes this in YOU..
This is why they target YOU..
What motivates you….. fuels their existence when focused exclusively on them..
What they see… because of your hope, … is endless supply.
The FREAK… is loving, kind and generous……
UNTIL YOU DISAGREE WITH THEM.
Open your eyes.. Gorgeous one.. and LET GO…
This is where real hope lies…
As long as the freak lives and thrives on in the illusion of controlling others... and is happy about it…
YOU … can live a life of your own…
YOU … can breath some fresh air….
YOU …can be just you …. For sometime..
YOU …can laugh freely….
YOU …get the power on the contrary to manipulate..
So… How do you shut down the Freak.. ?
Don’t sink to their level.
So.. don’t fight back when provocated !
Don’t feed their EGO
When their self image is reflected back..
they are actually receiving the gratification of they freaking supply !
Rise above it.
Just be the BEST … TRUEST version of yourself
Don’t argue or Validate
Instead.. just say…. “ I’m sorry you feel that way.”
Disengage..
Don’t try to get involved and don’t try to reason.
Be VAGUE.
They keep on looking for attention to satisfy their ego..
Put your needs first.
Yes… just be YOU… keep YOUR needs in the front. They are afraid of this !
WALK AWAY.
The BEST way to SHUT DOWN the freak !
As long as the illusion is alive, as long as the element of weakness and insecurity is in control… YOU will live… FREELY.
So… think again…. Who’s in Control ????????
N B : raison d'être
the most important reason or purpose for someone or something's existence.
"seeking to shock is the catwalk's raison d'être"